I’ve NEVER to this day felt that I wanted to bear a child, and I still stand by it.
00 We were 24. The guy was living in Japan and I was in Chicago. When I told him I was pregnant, he said to me “you’re aborting it right?” (in japanese) so I said “yes”. He had work so I called my friend who told me to go to#PlannedParenthood so I did. I was living with my dad at the time and didn’t want to tell him. So, I did it with local anesthesia, alone.
1 I was 25. A latino guy who I met in NYC, had 3 kids which I did not know about until his ex-gf told me. When I got pregnant I told him I’m aborting it. At the time I was in Law School. He called me a #murderer, which is ironic because he had killed a guy from drunk driving a truck. So, again had to do it with local anesthesia, alone.
8 I tried to get #sterilization at planned parenthood in NYC because I didn’t want to do this again. The lady I consulted told me I was too young to make such a life decision. And I said it’s fine. And then she said, even if you’re fine, the doctor won’t want to do it. I could have insisted sure, but I just felt too saddened and I wasn’t sure anymore. I didn’t want to make someone do something they did not want to do. I was also shocked because I wasn’t in some town but in NYC… it can be conservative here.
10 I got pregnant with my domestic partner. We had already discussed that we did not want children, so we got it together. This time I got a full anesthesia but actually it was worse. I don’t like anesthesia. When I woke, I was in so much pain I had wished the pain came slowly rather than all at once as a surprise upon waking.
0 He was 28. He insisted he can pull out which I knew because that was how I got pregnant the first time. I figured he might as well learn with me than another girl. I got pregnant, but he didn’t learn the lesson and got his next girl pregnant. At least he took time off his work to come pick me up.
Women pay the price of pregnancy with their bodies but men do not. No men should ever have a say in #abortion. If the woman doesn’t want to bear your child, you don’t deserve it because she doesn’t #love you, ONLY because you have #failed to show her that you love her sufficiently.
Happy mother’s day ❤